Spirituality Information - You Can Never Get Rid Of Your Problem
"I have a major relationship problem .Can you help me get rid of the problem,Sir . It just does not seem to go away." said the young man to the spiritual guru. The young man was very successful in his career but was unable to find a solution to his existing relationship issue. He looked very disturbed and had lost his composure.
" I cannot help you get rid of your problem" said the wise sage but i can do one thing for you ." " I can help you get out of the problem ." The young man looked more confused now.
The smiling sage went on to explain what he meant by getting out of the problem. "Whenever you get into a problem there would be two or more people involved in every issue. You are one of them. The reason you find it difficult to get rid of the problem is because the other person/partner does not accept your solution. You have no control over his/her decisions. This gives you pain and you are not able to solve the problem. You drain all your energy in making him/her accept your solutions, you even compromise to a certain extent but still the other person is not interested in your way of doing things. Unfortunately you cannot do much. and you are frustrated. You do not want to take the extreme steps of separation with your partner and so you are lost . But there is another way to deal with the same problem. If you cannot get rid of the problem, you can get out of the problem. Here is how you do it. All the troubles,anguish pain and concern are created in your mind. It is your mind which makes you happy and it is the same mind which makes you unhappy. So if you can learn to train your mind to detach yourself from the problem the intensity of the pain would cease to exist. The problem would still exist externally but it does not trouble you beyond a point. It becomes powerless against your powerful mind.
The external world exists outside where it should be and not inside where it should never have been. The way you go about making your mind powerful is by building this internal kingdom within you where you are the king and every other person/problem has to take permission from you before they enter into your kingdom. The more you water the problem the more it grows. You have blown your external problem out of proportion and it keeps growing every day. However, you have never tried even once to build a rock solid support system within you which can tackle all these ongoing problems. The first step is to detach yourself from the problem and thats how you get out of the problem. It is wonderful and the rewards are gratifying. You ought to experience it." .
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