Adjustment is an important subject of social sciences. Adjustment culminates to unity and strong bond between people which is very necessary for the advancement and existence of society and the country. This is one of the sterling virtues, whosoever adopts it sails the boat of life smoothly and happily and can even face boldly the holocaust fatigue. It is a give and take affair. The dictionary meaning of adjustment is to alter slightly, become used to a new situation and harmonize. Adjustment / reconciliation is an integration/ fructification and non-adjustment is decadence.
The visionary adjusts even during difficult situations as one believes that dawn comes after dark and all phases of life are passing ones. A life of adjustment is an ideal one as one uses diplomacy / restraint / accomodation and is not provoked. With an attitude of adjustment all strings of rancour will loosen converting into bond of love, service, righteousness and universal brotherhood. In this spirit even the mightiest and the weakest may live together in complete harmony. One may prefer to lose a fight or negotiate skillfully and will clear out all misunderstandings with others.
One’s inside tug will vanish,the person stops drifting aimlessly and will become adaptable. One with such qualities will become humble, generous and extinguishes arrogance. The life becomes benign, completely streamlined, vibrant/ upbeat and fine-tuned. To err is human. The attitude of let go acts as a balm. One should not, always, stick to one’s own guns. Even with a small gesture of adjustment one earns the pleasure, good will, confidence, harmony and faith of others. Adjustment amongst young and old with wide generation gap is the necessity of the day. Since one’s hatred is quelled due to adjustment the stress is reduced and the resultant is harmony in every direction. The family life becomes fruitful , joyful , cohessive and blossoms which is purely based on sacrifice ,tolerance, and mutual love.
Since the emotions are controlled , the heart and mind work in unison with a desire to live peacefully. The fickle mind stabilizes and one casts off ego and never feels that he/ she is indispensible. Besides, due to change of attitude, sometimes, one becomes partner of somebody’s wealth, grace and virtues and victor of own trials and tribulations. With adjustment one learns the art of handling people and with due consideration and tact even the knotty and puzzling problems can be solved. The discard and conflict turn to accord, denial to acceptance. In case the situation does not change, a person of consideration will change according to the circumstances as the tortoise does. The situation is not always according to our wishes. One’s language becomes sweet, rigidity melts down and he/ she is accepted by all, everywhere in cozy atmosphere. The argumentation is refrained and one becomes very conscious while dealing with others, especially with sensitive persons. Such a person becomes endear of all, animosity to none and is never stubborn, violent, disgruntled or proud.
Saint Rahim has said,” Do not snap the thread of love by a jerk; once snapped, it can not be rejoined without a knot.” This saying is true about adjustment and faith also. The mutual faith , respect, consideration and tolerance are deep rooted. He/ she will never denigrate/ contradict any religion, sect, caste, creed and country to avoid attrition and pitfalls which antagonize at a little pretext. We should avoid the awkward situation as we do while we meet a person walking from the opposite direction in the same clime. Unfortunately, fomenting insurgency, terrorism and communal/ racial hatred is on rise in the whole world disturbing the social fabric of life. The spirit of tolerance is vanished and values of humanity are degraded. This has also led to alienation of the society. Though the transformation needs a lot of sacrifice and self-denial but, no doubt, adjustment bridges many wide gaps. There are many disadvantages for those who do not adjust and are not flexible in life.
Their faculities do not function properly and they blame their luck, God or someone else for short-comings. Such persons start considering themselves as unworthy and may fume and fret on flimsy grounds. They become offensive, unfriendly and with such type of temprament ruin their innerself with blazing fire of hatred and revolt. He/ she may form habits of nitpick, peevishness and may thus fall apart from people at a small pretext. Also such habits create confusion in one’s mind making indecisive and switching tracks of mind off and on which , ultimately,derail the life. They may use curt and unbridled language resulting in a fire-brand / ballistic personality whereas a little care and diplomacy can avoid war. Non adjustment causes a great loss and disappointment. Adjustment has amazing healing powers as such persons do not live in repulsion, will not have any adversary but all well-wishers. Since such a person is cordial he/she may believe in theism and build pantheon for all.
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